Glo's Writing Diary
and Updates !
Review of Book 1
Reviewed in the United States on August 5, 2020
I found this a sad and wonderful book to read, filled with pain and hope. Glo has a perspective on the NZ Catholic Church that few survivors have been privy too. Despite her best endeavors, they managed to marginalise and use her while she was trying to help survivors of clerical abuse.
Her letter to the Catholic Church is NZ is powerful, incredibly powerful. Will they listen? They need to!
Reviewed in the United States on August 4, 2020
This works as personal testimony and condemnation of the apathy and stonewalling that defines the Catholic Church's response to Abuse in New Zealand. It is a reflection on, and the history of clerical sidestepping and inaction in recent years It points to the process of indifference that grew slowly but surely over the nineties and leaves no room for misunderstanding exactly how broad and deep clerical abuse has been. The writers first-hand experience working for the Auckland DIosese says much, with a sometimes light but indelible touch. People knew, people stonewalled and people put clergy before victims.Her compassion for the Christian perspective gives a legitimacy to her statements. This is a bit more than a personal story as it encompasses the period where very little work was done for all victims despite those in power knowing the depth of betrayal to New Zealand and the pacific.
About the Author
Gloria M Ramsay (also known as Glo) is a writer who has contributed in other publication’s, but this is her first self-published book in a small series titled #ShameBusters.
Written in the Biography genre, Glo shares her personal experience of childhood trauma of abuse by the Parish priest, while attending a Catholic school, and how that affected her future life. Beliefs she formed, guilt, shame, and enormous anxiety which she carried.
Despite some tragic experience’s in the primary school years of Glo’s life, her adult life is a clear illustration of her desire to help others.
Her work history is full of examples of this.
Glo has continued to overcome challenging events throughout adulthood. These experiences would have brought down many people but Glo has an inner strength which is apparent throughout her book. Glo’s writing shows empathy, anger, and disappointment in a great institution which she eventually came to believe would nurture and protect her. When she realized she had been mistaken she was devastated.
Glo is a loving mother, grandmother, and great grandmother. She is a loyal friend to many. Her experiences have made her who she is. Her book illustrates why.
A must read for those wishing to understand how forces we contend with in childhood are with us forever.
This book provides just a glimmer of what is to come as Glo will be continuing to recount her experiences in a series of 3.
We await the next book with anticipation.
Book 1 - Finally Published - 5th August 2020 !
So excited to announce Book 1 is now completed.
Paperback and eBook Kindle copies are now available on Amazon!
Here is the link #ShameBusters Book 1
What a journey it has been so far.
Now to complete ##ShameBusters - Book 2
Defy Betrayal - Reclaim Your Voice
Awaken Your Soul's Divine Magic
Release date for Book 2 is now 1st May 2023 !
My writing journey
20th May 2020
My book is now to be split into two books
My first book - Soul Destruction - is about the effects of Catholic indoctrination and the trauma of childhood abuse by a Catholic priest, it's affects and the influences that had on my life and the lives of those close to me.
It is strongly Catholic in it's principles, beliefs, rituals.
My second book is about the recovery process, emotional and spiritual healing, enlightenment, new beginnings and much more.
This could be helpful for anyone who has experienced trauma, supported others, but to anyone who is interested in the power of healing through spirituality
through connection to the energy of our universe, to Gaia our earth mother, to the creative energy of All That Is, the power of grace and synchronicity.
It was pointed out to me, that some readers may find reading the first section difficult but may also find the second section really helpful. And in reverse.
Some may find the first section helpful and not be ready to look at the second section.
I am listing these two books together as part of a series as there will definitely be more to follow.
UPDATE - APRIL 2020
A range of events have occurred, starting with a positive outcome from the NZ Family Courts which finally allowed me to access and view my personal adoption records in December 2019.
This resulted in me filing a second application to gain full access to my records, which was then granted in February while at the same time a DNA match linking me to my Bio father's family showed up initially on 23 & Me and then on Ancestry.
I found four amazing cousins who each then helped me to dig deeper on my search creating an enormous change to the the final chapter of my book which is now in the process of being rewritten.
I want to assure my wonderful, welcoming and supportive newly discovered family that I will not be sharing any names, just my own experiences and my own story. Having a half-sister, even a half-cousin suddenly showing up in your lives after 69 years must have been an enormous shock to everyone.
Covid 19 and the lock down here in New Zealand is now offering me the opportunity to finally knuckle down and get this last piece of writing completed.
The Universe has continued to have my back every step of the way on this incredible life journey, with the most amazing synchronicity. So incredibly grateful!
1st UPDATE 22nd September 2019
The manuscript for my book is now in the safe and careful hands of my proof reader!
I am so excited to be sharing this as I get closer to the completion of my first book in which I share my own personal healing and empowerment journey.
Lifting the Veil of Shame and Betrayal!
Is about my journey from the darkness, terror and shame of being a child victim of emotional, mind bending, sexual and spiritual childhood abuse by an incredibly powerful catholic priest.
Growing up filled with confusion, shame, and fear and becoming a dysfunctional teenage rebel, wife and parent.
It is a story about survival, grace, personal growth, spiritual guidance and intervention, loss, sadness, miracles, vindication, love, grief, more loss and healing.
The beliefs I formed, the meaning I gave to events, to the words spoken and the actions of others, and how it influenced choices I made, relationships, and other life events.
In the midst of the priest's abuse of me, discovering that I wasn't who I thought I was, that my parents weren't my real parents, added further confusion and grief to my little world as a little 8 year old girl.
Confusion, dysfunctional coping strategies, mistakes, the shame I hid even from myself, and the learning's.
My journey has taken me from wounded victim, to outspoken survivor, survivor's representative, to passionate advocate, confrontational activist, educator & workshop facilitator to where I find myself now as a soon to be published author where I share my own story, and once again I am openly challenging the hierarchy of catholic church leadership for the blatant abuse inflicted on vulnerable innocent children for over a thousand years !
There have been numerous magical and spiritual interventions that have occurred throughout this writing journey. Synchronicity which at times has been nothing short of 'miraculous', which sustained my ability to never ever completely give up on myself or write myself off, even when I perceived that other's had. Someone or something would always intervene with a word, a smile, or some other kind of interaction, to bring me back into focus.
This is not an easy topic to write on, nor is it a popular topic to address. Most people would rather bury their head in the sand and hope it goes away.
But that has never worked as it has just got worse, bigger, and much dirtier.
It is a very real thing that has been happening for centuries and must be stopped and those who continue to engage in abusive activities must be held accountable.
Those who collude to protect abusers by covering up, not reporting, moving or hiding them, must be held to account too.
Most importantly for me, has been the incredible support, encouragement and love of so many people over my entire life including family, friends and many beautiful colleagues but most especially, my late husband and soul mate Dave, who helped me to believe in myself by supporting me, and never ever giving up on me.
My late parents who adopted, loved and raised me Jack and Mary Hill gave me a love filled home which I was so truly blessed and privileged to be raised in.
And last but certainly not least, after not seeing one another for 55 years, my first and best childhood friend who is now my life partner Ted, whose constant support, encouragement and love has helped me to once again believe in myself enough to succeed in reaching this milestone.
Writing my story has been a painful, emotional, yet powerfully healing and freeing experience and I hope that by sharing this, it may resonate in such a way that it may be able to help even one other person.
Maybe even inspire one other person to do something similar.