# You Are Loved ! Never Doubt This Truth!
Every newborn baby that is born, comes into this world with nothing other than complete trust, total dependence and vulnerability. When that trust is taken, violated, and betrayed, trust is replaced with terror, fear, trauma and shame. But shame belongs to the abuser, not to the child.
Love always remains even when it seems to be lost, and buried and smothered deeply within the fear, shame, pain, trauma, and confusion.
As the journey of healing continues, it can slowly reach the dimly lit pathway that heads slowly back into the light and Love can be found hidden in the little corners of that wounded little heart and soul of the broken inner child.
Hope is the doorway to this journey.
So Be it! And so it Is!
##Say No to Secrets !
When a vulnerable little child has been betrayed and assaulted by a powerful adult, one of the first things that happens alongside that abuse is the reminder from the abuser that everything must be kept secret.
Sometimes this can be done with threats, false accusations, blame, and intimidation.
This can also be done through bribery, coercion, manipulation.
Being told that this is a 'special love' that no one else would ever understand and often a victim will go to great lengths to protect the abuser. Protect the secret.
This in turn can create even more shame for the victim in the longer term. Abuse of this kind is never ever the victims fault.
### Put Shame where it Belongs !
There is no set time, or process for a victim / survivor to begin having memories of being abused as a little child. Every experience is different and the stages that follow are also different for each person. for some it can be as long as 20 years, for others it can be 40 years.
But once one has an awareness there are various stages that also follow and once again, in no particular order. Like any grief or loss. Everyone's experience is unique to them. But for some victim/ survivors, a really strong need to take action takes hold with a strong desire, or maybe it would be better referred to as a calling, to stop such things happening to other children. This can become a powerful motivation that fuels the courage to speak out. When this happens the results can be powerful as shame is returned to the abuser & those who colluded to protect him / her from any consequences.
#### ShameBusters - Sexual Abuse Defines The Abusers' & Their Protectors.
It most certainly does Not Define You - Not Ever ! So Do Not Let It!
There is absolutely no doubt what so ever that abuse, trauma, betrayal of any type or kind is something which is devastatingly painful and leaves enormous scars and wounds in many ways which can include physically, emotionally, sexually, spiritually. and psychologically. You were abused by a person who was trusted, but who chose to betray that trust and seriously harm you. It happened in the past, and it plays over in your head and it can feel like it is still happening.
That is what trauma does.
But it Does Not and Never Will Define the real truth of the beautiful soul, that you have
always been, that you were as a little child, that you are now, and that you will always be, Forever and Beyond.
So Be it! And so it Is!
##### Defy Betrayal - Speak Your Truth !
It can take time for a victim to process the enormity of what happened to them when the abuse has occurred during childhood or even as a young teenager. Especially when the abuse includes the very normal grooming methods that are used which can include charismatic manipulation, feeling attracted to the abuser, having a crush, enjoying the emotional connection, the attention, flattery feeling special, which then switch to intimidation, bribery, threats, fears, enormous shame, worrying about other family members, what they will think, say, do.
Speaking out cannot be done comfortably until one really comes to the reality of recognizing the real depth of the Betrayal that has occurred. Once that Betrayal is recognized, felt deep within the soul, nothing and no one will keep you silent.
The force that is birthed in that time, can feel stronger than the force of a Mother Lioness protecting her cubs.
Not everyone will reach that depth, and not everyone will need to speak out and that is OK too !
That is their soul's journey.
We each have our own healing journey to walk on.
Walk gently, walk softly, walk with compassion and deep love in your heart for your very scared, lonely, frightened, and wounded inner child ! And remind her / him that you have Survived !
## Survivors Warriors & Whistleblowers !
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